Breaking the concrete.

One of my clients once said to me that she deliberately keeps busy, because if she is still with herself for too long, she starts to think too much.

I think we all know to some degree how that feels.

Especially if we’re going through a particularly difficult time. We don’t want to create the time and space to access the deeper thoughts and feelings that are locked away, or we worry they may overwhelm us.

This client of mine actually had a beautiful phrase for this: breaking the concrete. She explained that she once had a therapist who tried to break the concrete in a session with her.

“It’s all well and good you breaking the concrete now,” she told the therapist. “But what then? What happens when I go home after the session? I have to deal with that and process it all on my own. I don’t want to break the concrete because I’m not ready to deal with what happens next.”

This is a hugely valid point.

In a thinking session, you do have to be willing to do some thinking. It’s the nature of the beast. But how you do it is entirely up to you. This is particularly important to remember if you think you have some ‘concrete’ that risks being broken.

If you want to sit and think in silence, you can. If you want to stroll all the way up to the concrete and turn back when you get there, you can. If you choose to break the concrete and peek at what’s underneath, you can.

It’s all on your terms. I don’t take you anywhere – you go where you’re ready, and where you have the energy and resources, to go. And I will bear witness and hold the space for you.

That’s one of the many beautiful things about a Thinking Session – it’s your mind, and you go where it’s ready to take you.

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